Background reading material for Yr2 Sem2 PPSD Session on Wednedsay 6th February 2008 by Professor Omar Hasan Kasule Sr.
1.0 PROSPECTIVE SPOUSE
Three conditions must be fulfilled in a prospective husband: adulthood, desire for marriage, and financial ability. The conditions for a prospective wife are having attained the minimum age for marriage and a desire to marry. There are no financial conditions.
Desirable characteristics in a spouse are religion, beauty, pedigree, lineage, wealth, social compatibility, and professional status. Religion is the most important.
Beyond these basic conditions prospective spouses must consider compatibility, kafaat, which includes psychological, cultural, socio-economic, and educational factors. Incompatibilities that can be identified before marriage usually break the marriage later with adverse consequences for the spouses and the children.
Looking at the prospective spouse is allowed and includes pre-marital screening for disease and genetic traits. Where closely-related persons are marrying, pre-marital genetic counseling and testing are highly recommended.
Marriage proposals can be made by men or women. It is forbidden to propose when a previous proposal is still being considered or has been accepted. It is forbidden to make any marriage proposals, direct or allusive, during the period of waiting after a reversible divorce. It is forbidden for the prospective spouses to be secluded in private without a mahram.
2.0 FORBIDDEN MARRIAGES
Marriage is prohibited on the basis of blood relationship (consanguinity), breastfeeding from the same woman (foster sibship), difference of religion (will lead to incompatibility), and joining closely related in marriage to the same man (will lead to break up of the women’s family relationship).
Mut'at, a marriage contracted with the knowledge that it is for a limited period, is forbidden. Such a marriage does not provide the stability needed to bring up children until adulthood. Children in broken marriages have a lot of physical and psychological disadvantages.
3.0 MARRIAGE CONTRACT AND MAHR
There are 4 pillars of marriage: pronouncement and acceptance, the guardian (waly), the bride, and the groom. No marriage is valid without witnesses or a waly (guardian). The waly must be a close male relative, and of sound judgment. In the absence of a waly the judge(kadhi) or any other male authorized by the bride can act as waly.
Marriage must be by free consent of both spouses irrespective of gender, age, or previous marital status. Marriage by coercion is invalid. The consent of marriage must fulfill the same conditions as informed consent in medical practice. Psychiatric examination may be necessary in conditions in which intellectual incompetence is suspected.
Dowry, mahr, is obligatory for validity of a marriage. Its purpose is to give the bride financial security. It is fixed by the bride before marriage and remains her. It is not returned in case of divorce of death of the husband if the marriage was consummated. Its payment can be delayed either in full or in part by mutual agreement of the spouses. The unpaid mahr is a debt that is due to be paid.
Marriage must be made known publicly to prevent secret illegal relations. A marriage feast, waliimat, is a highly recommended sunna.
Conditions in the marriage contract are respected if they are not repugnant to the Law. Examples of acceptable conditions are stipulations about monogamy and country of residence. A marriage contract is invalid if contracted during hajj.
4.0 CONJUGAL RIGHTS & OBLIGATIONS